In this third installment of the Secrets of Mental Well-Being series, we are exploring the inner sources of stress using four simple insights based on neuroscience and cognitive psychology. Based on these insights, we will introduce the “trigger log” to take a closer look into your deep-rooted beliefs and begin to understand how this affects getting your needs met on a daily basis.
In this second installment of the Secrets of Mental Health series, we are introducing the “stress-meter” which is a tool you can use to measure how effective or ineffective your inner state-of-being is over time.
Our unique model helps identify how frequently and with what strength your stress, anxiety and other factors affect your overall inner state-of-being on a day-to-day and long-term basis. It also provides a barometer by which to identify improvement and change as a result of your self-discovery efforts.
When we think about our next level of performance or improvement, sometimes we focus too much on what we want to change on the outside, while forgetting to notice what inner states drive those outcomes. For example, how much does your inner sense of confidence affect your performance in a job interview? If you spend all your interview prep time thinking about questions and answers, but fail to pay attention to what you can do to build your confidence, how much potential have you wasted?
In this Part 3 of our 3-part blog post, we’re sharing the three stages of trust-building, and how you can navigate these stages with simple and consistent actions. Stage One – Common Ground
The first stage of trust is finding common ground. This is a deliberate attempt to undo the “us-them” bias in our brains. We are always delighted when we realize that we have something in common with another person. If we don’t know them yet, we tend to automatically move them to the “us” category in our minds. But even with someone we already know and firmly dislike, finding common ground tends to have a positive effect.